Let the photographer do the work!

Imagine yourself at your own wedding, looking at the passionate eyes of your loved one as you exchange your vows. At a split second, you turn to look at your audience, and you see that all of them, family and friends looking at you through their phones. Their arms raised to head level, faces are covered up by their latest iphone cover. Ugh! You hired a fabulous photographer - you don’t want this! In fact, it gets worse!

After you receive your wedding ceremony photos from your photographer, all the shots of your guests reveal them staring at their beloved devices. Your friends may be smiling, but not at you, they are smiling at their phone screens.

Well, this is the trend these days! Weddings are being over documented by amateurs with phones! Even if you have already hired a photographer to capture the moments of the event, you can be assured that everybody has a camera with them and not only are they watching the wedding through their device, they are updating their social media world about the entire event. You’ve invited guests to witness your beautiful ceremony, not take average photos on their iphone. You want your guests full attention!

The best wedding ceremony is one that is characterized by solemnity and this can only be achieved if the guests try their best to be present in the event. Sadly, our devices often do the opposite of our intention. We think they will help us capture the moment, but instead we lose the moment all together! Of course there are things that legitimitally distract us, like children or the need to find some kleenex, but you want guests that are not just physically there but are also emotionally ready to indulge themselves on the sanctity of the event.  

What can you do to contribute to the solemnity of an important wedding ceremony? Keep in mind that a wedding ceremony is a fleeting event. Despite the length of time and effort many take to plan their wedding, it doesn’t last forever. Therefore, it would be best to encourage your guests to be emotionally and physically present, rather than focusing on what their tiny screen can do.  By encouraging your guests to put their devices away during your ceremony, the you are also inviting your guests to more fully enjoy the moment with you.

In some instances, a hyper documented ceremony might be preferred by some couples. For example, if the wedding is under a tight budget, couples may simply skip on the use of professional photography, and depend on the photographs from the guests. But generally couples want their guests focused on them and leave the photos to the professionals.

If you are searching for a more intimate moment with your guests, then a solemn and device-free wedding may be perfect for you. You can either announce this request before hand, or have the message passed on to your audience on your wedding day; the purpose stays the same, that is, to create a more memorable moment on your special day.  Feel free to ask your officiant to make this announcement for you! We can do the dirty work of asking people to keep their iphones in the pockets and purses. After all, there will be plenty of time for selfies at the reception!


Looking for an unconventional wedding reading?

Love is Like a Bottle of Gin by the Magnetic Fields

It makes you blind, it does you in
It makes you think you’re pretty tough
It makes you prone to crime and sin
It makes you say things off the cuff
It’s very small and made of glass
and grossly over-advertised
It turns a genius to an ass
and makes a fool think he is wise
It could make you regret your birth
or turn cartwheels in your best suit
It costs a lot more than it’s worth
and yet there is no substitute
They keep it on a higher shelf
the older and more pure it grows
It has no color in itself
but it can make you see rainbows
You can find it on the Bowery
or you can find it at Elaine’s
It makes your words more flowery
It makes the sun shine, makes it rain
You just get out what they put in
and they never put in enough
Love is like a bottle of gin
but a bottle of gin is not like love.

You can hear the original version of this song here.


Young Hip and Married Welcomes Jane, our newest officiant!


Kiyomi & Tim's Wedding

Our Vancouver Island officiant, Mike, had an amazing opportunity to marry Kiyomi and Tim on September 6th, 2014.  It was a truly beautiful setting for an absolutely amazing couple, who are now both from New Zealand.  Kiyomi grew up in Canada, spending the summers at the Alders, where they celebrated their amazing day.

This wedding was so beautiful in the details, that weddingbells.ca featured it.  You can click here to see more amazing pictures and details about this fabulous couple.

Julia, from Ameris photography out did herself in capturing the wonder and beauty of the day.  Seeing the smallest details and capturing them.  She shared her experience, you can read that here.

Thank you Kiyomi and Tim for including Young Hip and Married in your amazing day!

Free Wedding and Vow Renewals in Vancouver FEb 14th 2015

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Hunter and Xylia - August 28, 2014



August has been aLOVEmazing.

I've married best-friends, quick-connections, slow-builds, big-dreamers, and faithful-partners.   These couples are as wonderfully different from one another as my dresses are the same.

I think all I want to say with this post is thank you, to these young hip lovers, now married and so hopeful.

Every time I stand up there with you, in front of your most beloved guests, I am renewed in love.  This means more to me than you'll ever know.

Thank you for welcoming me into your story and into your ceremony space.




Congratulations to our officiant Mike and his family!

Our Vancouver Island Officiant Mike Bidell has recently welcomed a new addition to his family!

Everyone one at Young Hip and Married sends their warmest Congratulations!

Welcome Mirabell Kindness Bidell!

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