Congratulations to our officiant Mike and his family!

Our Vancouver Island Officiant Mike Bidell has recently welcomed a new addition to his family!

Everyone one at Young Hip and Married sends their warmest Congratulations!


Welcome Mirabell Kindness Bidell!


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Rethinking the First Fight Box



I've seen a post floating around the internet about a First Fight box.  The idea is that at your wedding ceremony you put a love letter to each other and a bottle of wine in a box and nail it shut to be opened when you have first fight.   The opening and reading of the letters are to be a reminder of your love for each other.  And also creating a nice moment in your wedding ceremony.

When I first read the article I thought it was a really sweet idea.  But once I thought about it, I realized if I had a first fight box at my wedding, we would have cracked that sucker open 3 days after our wedding!

You see we married 6 days before Christmas and put off our Seattle honeymoon until the new year.   But we stayed at a bed and breakfast to at least have a bit of something special after the wedding.  I made sure to book a romantic place with a hot tub.  However, my amazing husband did not pay attention to the owner when he explained how to work the hot tub lid.  And after being at the B&B for a few hours, we were finished using the hot tub and my husband went to replace the lid, breaking a one of kind art sculpture in the process.  I was angry and mortified.  I hid in the closet and let him deal with the owners calling off the balcony to see if everything was alright.  I was fuming, how could he have done that!  Now we had to pay for this art piece with money we didn't have!  Enter our first fight.  However, one piece of advice we were given and without realizing  it we put it into practice, was to fight naked.  So the the fight didn't last long to say the least.  Now we can laugh about it, but wow was I mad at the time.

So as I was thinking about this first fight box I thought it should be revamped.  Rather do an anniversary box. Write a love letter to each other leading up to your wedding then with a bottle of wine, nail the box closed.  Then on your first anniversary you open the box, read the letters while enjoying your wine.  It's like a built in little date.  But don't let it end there, each year add a new letter to the box with the others and a new bottle of wine.  I would have loved to have 10 love letters chronicling our love last December on my 10th anniversary.

Rather then focus on something that is negative, like a fight, which is bound to happen when two people are doing life together as a team.  Put the focus on the positive your yearly anniversary.
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Lani's big day!

We love weddings and we LOVE our officiants!
Any chance to brag about them, we will take it!

If you have had the chance to meet our Lani, you know she has an amazing zest for life and she has worked with many of our couples to make their wedding days amazing and one of a kind.
Today is her day!  
She's counted down, arranged her officiant, bought the dress, picked her flowers and lost plenty of sleep over the excitement of it all.
Today we are so thrilled to be able to wish our very own Lani a HUGE Congrats on her wedding!
Lani we love you and so happy for you!
I can't wait to be able to post YOUR wedding pictures!

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Young, Hip & Married & The Rise of Divorcée Parties

by Bobbi Salkeld

We at Young, Hip & Married think it can be better than this.*  

I (Bobbi) came across this Globe & Mail article - “Breakout blowouts: How the divorce party is coming on strong for young divorcées” -  floating around in Facebookland a while back.  And I gotta say, it bummed me out.  


As officiants, we meet oodles of couples in the glow of love.  It’s hard to believe that anything can stop love like that - love that’s poised to say “I do” no matter what comes our way.  


So what happens?  Does life just happen?  Are we all just careening for an inevitable end to love when it comes to marriage?  


Light a match?
Burn a dress?
Drink yourself out of that shitty feeling of failure?  

Or, can we dare to say “hold on!”  Hold on to your “I do.”


Life is going to be so much harder than we think.  So much harder.  But I think we can do this.  We can do this alone** or we can do this together.  


There is a book of prayer that says the union of two people is “for their mutual joy, for the help and comfort given one another in prosperity and adversity.”   


The promises we make on a wedding day aren’t for happiness alone, they are for
help,
comfort.

If you need help getting along, please get it.  
If you need to remember who you are again, you can do that.
If you need space to breathe and time to heal, oh my God,
please
do that.

We’re gonna stay pretty optimistic about love over here at Young, Hip & Married, keeping love alive in big and little ways, and celebrating our couples all summer long, for the love of it.  


Happy 2014 wedding season, everyone!  We’re doing this.  

:::

* Response note, to be clear: No one should be stuck in a relationship that is abusive in any way.  Getting out of that is important and to be marked, and yes, celebrated.  

** Stay tuned for the fall launch of our blog The Lonely Officiant, by yours truly.  
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Mike and Ashley - May 31, 2014


Shawn had the amazing opportunity to officiate for Mike and Ashley's May 31st wedding at the beautiful Steamworks Brewery in Gastown, Vancouver.

Congratulations Mike and Ashley, you two are an amazing couple and we all wish you a life time of happiness together. 

The amazing photography was done by Sarah and Graeme.

Graeme and Sarah
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John and Hazel - June 28, 2014



Cory had the amazing opportunity to officiate John and Hazel's Rockin' Wedding at The Museum of Vancouver.  John and Hazel took the opportunity to really make their ceremony unique and meaningful for them.

John and Hazel included Handfasting as part of their ceremony.  Handfasting is a historical term for 'bethrol' or 'wedding'.  Handfasting has a long and beautiful history.
The best man, also named John, performed an ancient handfasting ceremony, while Leslie, the maid of honor did a reading about handfasting.

John and Hazel, along with their children, Risa and Cole poured sand from four individual containers into a frame to signify the unity of the family.  What an amazing idea to include their kids and have a lasting memory to keep in their house to remind them that they are united.

The couple included so many personal touches in their unique wedding, the handfasting, the sand frame, Hazel even made all the dresses, shawls and handkerchiefs.  It's such an honor to be able to be a part of such an amazing ceremony.

Thank you John and Hazel for really working with Cory to make this wedding true to the two of you.   And allowing Young Hip and Married to be part of your wedding day.





To find out more about handfasting and if it's something you would like to include your ceremony, visit, handfasting.org


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Elizabeth + Derek = Stolen Kisses




Normally I don't get this teary eyed during a wedding ceremony, but on this blustery day, under a big old tree on the edge of the ocean, there was not a dry eye as Elizabeth and Derek spoke the most sweet words of love to each other.

The ceremony was a surprise for their families.  You see, Elizabeth is from Australia, and when her parents decided to come for a visit, it seemed to be the perfect time for a ceremony!  So, with a few of their family surrounding them, it was an honor to officiate this special moment.

Congratulations Elizabeth and Derek!  We wish you many more stolen lunch room kisses and a lifetime of love.

<3  Lani
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Friday the 13th, Full moon...Let's get married!



I received an email from Donovan Friday morning, June 13.
He and Tracy wanted to get married, they just decided.  And they wanted to get married....TODAY!

The excitement was over flowing through the phone line as I called Donovan.  I could hear the giggling of someone in the back ground who was beyond excited.  It was contagious.  My excitement for them started to build in the anticipation of what they would be accomplishing today.


They needed, a dress, a suit, the marriage license, a dozen other things and of course, the officiant!  Things most people spend months planning....

It really was completely spur of the moment.  I talked with Donovan a few times during the day as he ran around trying to get everything done.  But not once did his excitement falter when we talked about what was needed.  

Shawn was more than happy to take part in this Friday the 13th, full moon wedding, at Trout Lake in Burnaby.



From the pictures you would never know that this wedding was planned in less than a day.  The pictures are magnificent thanks to Donovan's friend, Darko Sikman, but what makes them fabulous are of course the Bride and Groom!



Thank you Donovan and Tracy for asking us to part of this amazing day!
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Amazing Roof Top Wedding




Congrats Lisa & Troy!

A Panoramic View of the City of Kelowna...Lakes & Vineyards and Mountains. This perfect setting on the rooftop deck of HOTEL ELDORADO was fitting to this beautiful couple!

The Bride of course was the Beauty of it all, her beaming smile and grace captivated the guests and of course her Groom. 

I loved the couples choices of the readings, The Union & The Love Chapter written by a 13 year old. I encouraged Lisa & Troy to keep on dating & falling in love...to let LOVE be their choice every morning & every night.

Complete perfection...almost, I filled out the BC Registry Marriage Book in advance and silly me and wrote the grooms name as Trevor instead of Troy....the Bride took her seat to sign...looked at her signature spot and glanced to the left...looking at me she smiled and said, "Trevor....I want to make sure I'm marrying the right guy! " We had a chuckle and changed the Trevor to Troy!

Wishing you an amazing forever journey of Love Lisa & Troy!

Carlton
YHM Officiant
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Experiencing the Power of Love in the Midst of Grief - Lani Johnson

I've been an officiant, a celebrant and a part of weddings for many years, but this is my first season with Young, Hip & Married.  It is just fantastic to be a  part of such a cool team of people.  How lucky am I!

Even though I've been a part of many wedding ceremonies, this last weekend was a first for me.  It was a great learning experience in the power of love in the midst of grief.  

Dylen and Chris captured my heart with their story.  They have had the strength to overcome adversity and become thoughtful and true partners to each other.  It's so beautiful and inspiring.

No one would have expected that they would face adversity and hardship the few weeks before their wedding.  Dylen's Baba passed away..  Her Baba who was 
a strong, energetic and wonderful women.  I'm so moved by this family.  You may think they should postpone or change the wedding date. But they are such a beautiful example of what is possible when we hold both grief and joy in our hearts. Their Baba would have been so proud.

So on the edge of Dunderave Beach, the rain clouds parted, the sun came through, and Dylen and Chris said their vows to each other with a small group of family and friends surrounding them.  There were tears, there was joy and there was celebration as these two got married!

-Lani Johnson, Officiant, Young Hip and Married 
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