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If you’ve ever been to a wedding or seen one on TV, you’ve likely heard a wedding cliche. These overused (and sometimes offensive) phrases pop up in wedding vows and ceremonies all the time.

And frankly, we’re getting a little bored of them!

It’s not that cliches are always bad – they’re just overdone and impersonal. Which is not the impression you want to leave on your guests or your partner on your wedding day.

Keep reading to discover 16 cliches and common wedding phrases you need to remove from your vows immediately, plus creative alternatives you can use to replace them!

What are wedding cliches? Why are they bad?

Wedding cliches are terms that we’ve all heard before at every wedding we’ve ever been to or seen in a movie/TV show. Sometimes these cliches are bad – maybe they’re offensive, dated or just don’t make sense for you and your relationship.

But a lot of times, wedding cliches aren’t inherently bad, they’re just overdone. Because we’ve all heard them so many times, these common wedding phrases have become meaningless. Your guests – and your partner – just tune them out.

And that’s exactly what we don’t want for your vows! You want every word you share to be full of meaning and personal to you. So get rid of the wedding cliches because your guests, your partner and your love story deserve better.

And while our list below mostly pertains to the overused wedding phrases we hear in vows, our advice also applies to wedding speeches, wedding signs, wedding websites, etc.

If you’re seeing these overused phrases pop up in other places around your wedding, cut them!

What can I say instead?

Well, check out our examples below! We’ve listed a bunch of alternatives so you can “say this, not that” and skip the wedding cliches.

The best way to beat wedding cliches is to make your words personal to you. You don’t have to try and come up with something super romantic, overcomplicated or poetic.

Simply ask yourself: What does this phrase mean to me? For example, what does it mean to you to unconditionally love your partner? How would you describe that feeling in your own words?

If you can’t come up with a good synonym, use specific examples. Rather than describing your unconditional love, think of examples of that love in your life. How do you show that love? What does that love look like?

And check out our vow course or free vow writing guide to learn how to write vows that are personal to you – no cliches needed! 

Without further ado, let’s get to the 16 wedding cliches you need to STOP saying in your wedding vows! 

1. Marrying my best friend

This common wedding phrase is one that can make people’s eyes roll (especially when it’s said over cheesy music on a TikTok video). Of course your spouse-to-be is your best friend, that’s why you’re marrying them!

Instead, think of other phrases to describe your partner. You can go for a synonym or make things even more personal with an example of how this person shows up in your life.

Creative alternatives to “marrying my best friend”:

Today, I’m marrying…

• My first and last crush
• The person who makes me swoon every time they get home from work
• The guy who still gives me butterflies 15 years later
• The woman who rocked my world and cracked my heart open
• My favourite person to watch bad TV shows next to
• The one who I know will always be there
• My partner in absolutely everything

2. For better or for worse

You likely know the phrase “for better or for worse” from the traditional wedding vows where partners promise to love each other in sickness and in health, for better or for worse, etc.

And while the sentiment is lovely – of course we all want our partners to continue to love us in the good times and the bad – because it’s such a common wedding cliche, it has essentially lost its meaning. We don’t really think about what “for better or for worse” means, we just say it on auto-pilot.

Synonyms for “for better or for worse”:

I promise to love you…

• In the times I want to scream at you and the times I want to wrap you in a bear hug
• No matter what crazy adventure life has in store for us
• When our love is easy and when it is a burden
• When you have a full head of hair and when you start to bald
• For every triumph we celebrate and every challenge we overcome
• For the best parts of yourself and the worst
• When it’s simple and when we need to fight for it

3. Love at first sight

We all grew up watching rom-coms where the lead characters fall in love at first sight. The music swells and everything turns to slow motion as they make eyes across a crowded cafeteria/mall/Christmas tree farm.

Except real life is rarely like that. Most of us don’t fall in love at first sight. So much so that even the opposite phrase, “it wasn’t exactly love at first sight,” has also become a cliche!

But if you really did fall for your partner right away, try out one of these alternatives instead.

Instead of “love at first sight” say:

• The day I met you, I was so distracted that I’m pretty sure I agreed to stay late after school all week and chaperone detention. But it was worth it!
• I know it sounds cheesy, but I swear I really did hear a rom-com soundtrack start to play when you walked into the bar.
• As soon as we started talking, I was so enchanted by your eyes and never wanted to look anywhere else.
• It might not have been love, but something definitely happened the moment I met you. I had a feeling like I needed you in my life.
• Who knows if it was love, chemistry or that third tequila shot, but the night we met is one I will never forget.

4. Unconditional love

We often hear in vows that someone promises to love their partner unconditionally or that they appreciate the unconditional love they receive from their partner. But what does that really mean?

You can choose one of our alternative phrases below or go ahead and describe that love. When you say you love your partner unconditionally, what does that mean to you? How do you act, how do you show up and how do you demonstrate that kind of love?

Rather than just saying you’ll love them unconditionally, give them some examples. This is the gist of your vows! What are you promising to do and to be in order to show that unconditional love?

Another word for “unconditional love”:

• Selfless love
• Love with my whole heart
• Pure devotion
• Give-up-the-remote-during-the-Superbowl kind of love
• The kind of love that tethers me to life
• Love without end

5. Partner in crime

Here’s another eye-roller. Is your fiance really your partner in crime? Really? The two of you actually team up and rob banks together?

Yeah, we didn’t think so. While this wedding phrase is cute, it’s very overdone. You can do better than this! There are still sweet ways to describe your partnership without resorting to this tired cliche.

Creative alternatives to “partner in crime”:

• Accomplice in mischief
• Ally in the slightly dangerous, but never illegal
• Co-conspirator in life’s crazy adventures
• The fall guy (sorry!)
• Someone who is down for my wacky plans
• A partner who will always agree to get takeout when we’re too tired to cook
• Fellow rebel against traditional adulthood

6. Happy wife, happy life

If you survey married couples, odds are a few husbands will tell you the secret to their success is the old philosophy: happy wife, happy life. Like many other wedding cliches, this one sounds sweet at first. Isn’t it great that your wife’s happiness is so important to you?

But once again, we have a phrase that’s been overused and has now taken on a new meaning. When people say this phrase, they often say it tongue-in-cheek. The meaning behind it is something like, “All a husband has to do is shut up and make his wife happy and then everything is great!”

Not only does this make it sound like a husband’s happiness isn’t important, but it also completely ignores everything wives do to contribute to their own lives and marriages. Not to mention, it’s pretty sexist (and often used with another terrible phrase “the old ball and chain”)!

So let’s all agree to stop saying this one, shall we? If you really want to talk about your partner’s happiness, try one of our alternatives below.

Instead of “happy wife, happy life” you can say:

• The greatest happiness I’ve ever known was the moment you said yes to marrying me.
• Everything in my life gets 10 times better when I do it next to you.
• Your smile is my favourite thing.
• I can’t imagine a happier existence than this one that I get to share with you.
• I will work hard every day to make your life just a little bit more joyful.
• Let’s make happiness and fulfillment the goal of our marriage.

7. Bride’s day

In the wedding world, we often hear about how a wedding is the bride’s day. It’s her special day and everyone else – including her partner – is just an accessory or an afterthought.

At Young Hip & Married, we work hard to ensure that our content, services and products are inclusive and address both members of a partnership. Your wedding day is about the two of you coming together and starting your married life – it’s not just about the bride!

Plus, what happens in weddings where there are two brides or no brides? Then whose day is it?

If you agree that a wedding is a day for both of you, opt for one of these creative alternatives.

Stop saying a wedding is the bride’s day, instead say:

• Today is a day for both of us.
• Today we celebrate where we’ve come from and where we’re going.
• Today is a celebration of our future.
• Our love has brought us both here today.
• Today is about bringing together our friends, our families and our love.
• Today is the beginning of all of our tomorrows.

8. Husband/wife

Before you start panicking and thinking that you can’t say “husband” or “wife” in your vows, let us assure you that is not what we’re saying. We’re just saying you don’t only have to say husband or wife.

Many couples get caught up in these new terms and end up using them over and over in their vows. And while the role of husband or wife is exciting and new, it’s a good idea to mix it up every now and then!

Synonyms for husband/wife:

• [their name]
• Partner
• Spouse
• Lover
• Loved one
• Sweetheart
• Darling
• Beloved
• Greatest human I’ve ever met
• Man with the best smile
• Woman with the biggest heart
• Person I want to spend my life with

PS: We’re also starting to see the terms “my person” and “the one” become a little overdone in wedding vows. So think of something more creative or descriptive to use instead.

9. You look beautiful

Don’t take this one the wrong way; you should still compliment your partner on your wedding day! And we bet they really do look beautiful! So why are we suggesting you switch out this wedding cliche?

Because it’s a bit tired. As sweet as this common wedding phrase is, it’s not very creative or unique. Almost everyone is going to tell their partner how beautiful or handsome they look on their wedding day.

And while that’s nice to hear, it’s almost so common that people don’t really hear it. Instead, try to describe exactly how you’re feeling about seeing your partner on your special day.

Creative alternatives to “you look beautiful” for your vows:

• I couldn’t wait to see you today but damn, were you worth the wait!
• Everything about you has fully enchanted me and I can’t look away.
• Beautiful isn’t a strong enough word for how incredible you look today.
• I pictured what you might look like on our wedding day but I could have never imagined the picture looking this perfect.
• I will never forget seeing you for the first time on our wedding day. That memory will stay with me forever.
• You know I’m not one to be at a loss for words, but I was truly speechless when I saw you this morning.
• I am stunned by your beauty and so lucky to be on the receiving end of your smile.

10. From the moment I met you…

There’s nothing wrong with this wedding cliche, it’s just something we hear a lot at wedding ceremonies. As wedding officiants, we’ve seen guests’ eyes start to glaze over when yet another couple starts telling their wedding story with, “From the moment I met you…”

We’re not saying you can’t tell the story of how you met, but let’s think outside the box! Is there another way to phrase this that’s more unique?

Also, if you don’t have the best meet-cute, why not talk about a different part of your relationship? There’s no rule saying you have to tell this story in your vows. Instead, share a story from your first date, when you knew you wanted to marry them, a memorable trip you took, etc.

Alternatives to “from the moment I met you…”:

• From the moment you captivated me…
• When I first got butterflies…
• As soon as you introduced yourself…
• When you walked in the door…
• I heard your voice and it was all over for me.
• After that, I couldn’t stop thinking about you.

11. 1 Corinthians 13

We’ve talked before about how the bible verse 1 Corinthians 13, while lovely, is extremely overused at weddings. Almost everyone has heard the passage that starts off with, “Love is patient. Love is kind…”

It is a beautiful verse but it is used at so many ceremonies. There are other more unique bible verses you can choose that won’t cause your guests to start to drift off in boredom.

Alternatives to 1 Corinthians 13? We wrote a whole blog post about it!

Or, you can choose a non-biblical or non-religious reading. Check out some of our favourite ceremony readings here.

12. Best day ever

A wedding day is often described as the best day ever. But you know what? We actually don’t think your wedding should be your best day ever. Because that means everything that comes after – including your marriage – is all downhill!

While your wedding day should be (and will be) awesome, it shouldn’t be the pinnacle of your life. You should have so many more wonderful days in your marriage with the hope that your best day is always ahead of you.

Plus, platitudes like “best” have started to lose their meaning. So let’s switch it up!

Instead of saying your wedding day is the best day ever, say: 

• While today is incredible, I know it’s not our best day. Because tomorrow I get to wake up next to you as my spouse, and what could be better than doing that every single day?
• Today is going to be a celebration of love that I will never forget.
• The feelings I have today as I marry you will stay with me forever.
• I didn’t think a day could be so full of joy, love and meaning.
• I’ve been looking forward to our wedding day for so long and I can’t believe the day I get to marry you is finally here.

13. I vow… I vow… I vow…

We talk a lot about how your vows are the promises you are making to your spouse for your lifetime marriage ahead. It’s not just a nice story about how you met and how much you love them.

But rather than start every sentence with “I vow…”, let’s mix things up! There are other ways to share your important vows with your partner.

Synonyms for “I vow…”:

• I promise…
• I will…
• I guarantee…
• I swear…
• I pledge…
• I commit…
• I affirm…
• You have my word…

14. I love… I love… I love…

Similar to “I vow…”, the phrase, “I love…” can also get quite repetitive in wedding vows. Imagine vows like this: “I love your kind heart. I love your big eyes. I love how you make me feel. I love how passionate you are.”

Nice sentiments, right? But kind of boring. So, let’s mix it up! Instead of constantly saying “I love,” try one of our alternatives instead.

Synonyms for “I love…”:

• I adore…
• I admire…
• I cherish…
• I appreciate…
• I fall in love when you…
• I am bowled over with emotion…
• I delight in…
• I couldn’t be happier…

15. Best version of myself

A lot of couples like to mention in their vows how their partner has made them the best version of themselves or their partner has made them a better person. And how sweet is that?

It’s very sweet! But once again, it’s a little overplayed. We hear this a lot in vows but it doesn’t really mean anything.

Rather than just saying this common wedding phrase, share with your partner exactly what you mean. How have they made you a better person? In what ways are you the best version of yourself? Provide some examples.

Instead of saying “you made me the best version of myself” or “you made me a better person”, try: 

• You taught me how to slow down and appreciate the little details that make life so great.
• You have inspired me to see the world through a different perspective.
• You motivate me to go after dreams I would never have dared to dream alone.
• You encourage me to always see the best in people, because you do it every single day.
• Because of you, I’ve learned how to value myself and recognize my self-worth.
• Because of you, I know it’s not a bad thing to care deeply about what’s important.
• Because of you, I am a more attentive and engaged parent and partner.

16. Until death do us part/as long as we both shall live

Let’s end our list of wedding cliches with a line we often hear at the end of vows. Many couples will cap off their vows by saying that they promise all of these things “until death do us part” or “as long as we both shall live.”

Of course, it’s very romantic to tell your partner that you want to promise them all of these great things until the end of your life. But because these phrases are so overused in wedding ceremonies, they’ve lost their meaning. Some couples also find references to death in their vows to be quite morbid, and may prefer saying something else.

So instead, choose an alternative that has some meaning behind it with language that works for you.

Alternatives to “until death do us part” and “as long as we both shall live”:

• Until my final breath
• With no expiry date
• Until we both walk out of this world
• Today, tomorrow and always
• Now and forever
• For as long as we are
• In this lifetime and the next
• For so long as love shall last

The best way to avoid wedding cliches? Personal wedding vows!

Wedding cliches become wedding cliches because couples keep using the same phrases and terms they’ve heard at hundreds of ceremonies before. The best way to avoid all of those cliches is by writing your own personal wedding vows that are unique to you two.

Not only will these vows be cliche-free, but they’ll also be much more meaningful to you and your partner. Your guests will also appreciate these personal words and insight into your life.

Get started with our FREE Wedding Vow Cheat Sheet or sign up for our vow writing video course! 

If you’re looking for an Irish wedding blessing for your upcoming ceremony or reception, we’ve got you covered!

A blessing, whether Irish or otherwise, is a great way to add some meaningful words to your wedding day. This can be even more impactful when those words are shared by a loved one or honoured guest. Though as your wedding officiants, we’re also happy to read your special words to your guests.

So if you’re looking for some beautiful words to add to your day, check out our list of 30 Irish wedding blessings below – from short prayers and funny poems to traditional classics and everything in between. You’ll be sure to find the perfect blessing for your wedding!

1. Traditional Irish wedding blessing

May the road rise to meet you,
May the wind be always at your back.
May the sun shine warm upon your face,
The rains fall soft upon your fields.
And until we meet again,
May God hold you in the palm of his hand.

May God be with you and bless you;
May you see your children’s children.
May you be poor in misfortune,
Rich in blessings,
May you know nothing but happiness
From this day forward.

May the road rise to meet you
May the wind be always at your back
May the warm rays of sun fall upon your home
And may the hand of a friend always be near.

May green be the grass you walk on,
May blue be the skies above you,
May pure be the joys that surround you,
May true be the hearts that love you.

2. Modified travel blessing

May the road rise up to meet you.
May the wind always be at your back.
May the sun shine warm upon your face,
and rains fall soft upon your fields.
And until we meet again,
May God hold you in the palm of His hand.

May good luck be with you Wherever you go, and your blessings outnumber the shamrocks that grow.

May your days be many and your troubles be few, May all God’s blessings descend upon you, May peace be within you, May your heart be strong, May you find what you’re seeking wherever you roam.

May you have the hindsight to know where you’ve been
the foresight to know where you’re going
and the insight to know when you’re going too far.

3. Short Irish blessing

May your mornings bring joy and your evenings bring peace.

May your troubles grow few as your blessings increase.

May the saddest day of your future be no worse than the happiest day of your past.

May your hands be forever clasped in friendship and your hearts joined forever in love.

Your lives are very special, and God has touched you in many ways. May his blessings rest upon you and fill all your coming days.

4. In good times & in bad

In good times and bad times, in sickness and health, may they know that riches aren’t needed for wealth. Help them face problems they’ll meet on their way—God bless this couple who marry today.

May they find peace of mind comes to all who are kind, may the rough times ahead become triumphs in time, may their children be happy each day—God bless this family who started today.

As they go, may they know every love that was shown, and as life it gets shorter may their feelings grow. Wherever they travel, wherever they stay, God bless this couple who marry today.

5. Love & laughter

May love and laughter light your days,
and warm your heart and home.
May good and faithful friends be yours,
wherever you may roam.
May peace and plenty bless your world
with joy that long endures.
May all life’s passing seasons
bring the best to you and yours!

6. Traditional Celtic blessing

May the raindrops fall lightly on your brow
May the soft winds freshen your spirit
May the sunshine brighten your heart
May the burdens of the day rest lightly upon you
And may God enfold you in the mantle of His love.
May the road rise to meet you
May the wind be always at your back
May the sun shine warm upon your face
and the rain fall soft upon your fields
And until we meet again my friend(s)
May God hold you in the hollow (palm) of his hand.

7. Short Irish good luck poem

Lucky stars above you,
Sunshine on your way,
Many friends to love you,
Joy in work and play—
Laughter to outweigh each care,
In your heart a song—
And gladness waiting everywhere
All your whole life long!

8. Wedding blessing for your home

May you always have walls for the winds,
a roof for the rain, tea beside the fire,
laughter to cheer you, those you love near you,
and all your heart might desire.

May joy and peace surround you,
Contentment latch your door,
And happiness be with you now,
And bless you evermore.

Bless you and yours
As well as the cottage you live in.
May the roof overhead be well thatched
And those inside be well matched.

May your neighbors respect you,
Trouble neglect you,
The angels protect you,
And heaven accept you.

9. Short Irish prayer

May God grant you always a sunbeam to warm you, a moonbeam to charm you, a sheltering angel so nothing can harm you. Laughter to cheer you, faithful friends near you.

And whenever you pray, Heaven to hear you.

10. Short Irish prayer II

May you have love that never ends,
lots of money, and lots of friends.
Health be yours, whatever you do,
and may God send many blessings to you!

11. Good luck blessing

May the blessing of light be on you—
light without and light within.
May the blessed sunlight shine on you
and warm your heart
till it glows like a great peat fire.

May your home be filled with laughter
May your pockets be filled with gold
And may you have all the happiness
Your Irish heart can hold.

May your blessings outnumber
The Shamrocks that grow
And may trouble avoid you
Wherever you go.

May luck be a friend to ye,
And be with ye in all yer days,
And may trouble be to ye,
A stranger, always

12. Traditional ceremony blessing

May the meaning of this hour be fulfilled through the days and years to come.
May the love of this man and this woman, their unity of spirit,
grow deeper and stronger in the uncertainties and changes of life they will share.
Loving each other, may they love all persons. Trusting each other, may they learn to trust life.
May their love reach out to the love of all, that their lives may bless all whose lives they touch. May they find comfort together in shared hours of shadow, as well as in the bright sunshine of joy. May they be to each other both strong and gentle.
May all who follow their lives with interest and affection have cause to rejoice not alone in their happiness, but in their brave and generous living which makes life beautiful and significant.

13. Irish prayer for the future

May God be with you and bless you.
May you see your children’s children.
May you be poor in misfortune, rich in blessings.
May you know nothing but happiness.
From this day forward.

14. Short traditional Irish blessing

Health during your life,
A wife of your choice to you,
Land without rent to you,
A child every year to you,
And the light of heaven after this world for you.

15. Funny Irish wedding blessing

May those who love us love us.
And those that don’t love us,
May God turn their hearts.
And if He doesn’t turn their hearts,
May he turn their ankles,
So we’ll know them by their limping.

16. Short Irish wedding poem

Here’s to you both, a beautiful pair
On the birthday of your love affair
Here’s to the husband and here’s to the wife
May yourselves be lovers for the rest of your life.

17. Irish magic

May the lilt of Irish laughter lighten every load.

May the mist of Irish magic shorten every road.

May you taste the sweetest pleasures that fortune ere bestowed.

And may all your friends remember all the favors you are owed.

18. “If you lie” reading

If you lie, may you lie only to keep a friend.
If you cheat, may you cheat only death.
If you steal, may you steal your lover’s heart.
If you drink, may you drink deeply of the joy of your new life together.

19. Short Irish blessing

May you have a world of wishes at your command. God and his angels close to hand. Friends and family, their love impart, and Irish blessings in your heart.

20. Irish angels

May you always walk in sunshine.
May you never want for more.
May Irish angels rest their wings
Right beside your door.

21. Brendan Behan wedding quote (Irish author)

“The most important things to do in this world are to get something to eat, something to drink, and somebody to love you.” – Brendan Behan

22. Bless you

With the first light of sun-
Bless you.
When the long day is done-
Bless you.
In your smiles and your tears-
Bless you.
Through each day of your years-
Bless you.

23. James Joyce wedding quote (Irish author)

“They lived and laughed and loved and left.” – James Joyce

24. Community poem

May your neighbors respect you
May trouble neglect you
May the angels protect you
And may heaven accept you.

25. Oscar Wilde wedding quote (Irish author)

“Never love anyone who treats you like you’re ordinary” – Oscar Wilde

26. Irish rainbow poem

Wishing you a rainbow
For sunlight after showers—
Miles and miles of Irish smiles
For golden happy hours—
Shamrocks at your doorway
For luck and laughter too,
And a host of friends that never ends
Each day your whole life through!

27. Sacred vow

We swear by peace and love to stand,
Heart to heart and hand to hand.
Hark, O Spirit, and hear us now,
Confirming this our Sacred Vow.

28. Greatest blessings

May you enjoy the four greatest blessings:

Honest work to occupy you.

A hearty appetite to sustain you.

A good woman to love you.

And a wink from the God above.

29. Irish wedding vow

May the embers from the open hearth warm your hands,

May the sun’s rays from the Irish sky warm your face,

May the children’s bright smiles warm your heart,

May the everlasting love I give you warm your soul.

30. Short & sweet Irish blessing

May you both live as long as you want,

And never want as long as you live.

Wedding blessing FAQs

Why choose an Irish wedding blessing?

Irish wedding blessings or Irish wedding readings are a very popular choice for couples. As you can see from our list above, many of these traditional blessings have a beautiful message to them and are a great way to wish a couple well on their wedding day.

Couples also appreciate the different tones you can find in Irish blessings – from serious and traditional to fun, short and modern. Many also have a poetic quality, which gives them a nice ring during the ceremony.

Of course, if you or your partner have Irish heritage or a connection to Ireland, that makes these Irish blessings even more impactful.

When are blessings said during a wedding?

Typically, blessings are included during the ceremony portion of your wedding day. They can be read by your officiant or you can ask an honoured guest to come to the front and share the reading.

You could also choose to incorporate blessings into the vows you share with your partner or into your reception. You could have them written out on your wedding website or on signage around your venue.

It’s also important to think about who is saying the blessing and if it’s appropriate to them. For example, blessings about children and the future might be best suited to a parent or grandparent and could even be incorporated into a father of the bride speech or mother of the groom speech. Funny poems could be included in a Best Man speech or Maid of Honour speech.

What other blessings or readings could we add to our ceremony?

If you’re looking for more blessings, prayers, poems, quotes or readings for your wedding ceremony, check out our list below!

• Our Top 10 Readings for Weddings
• Wedding Ceremony Readings from Songs
• Romantic Wedding Ceremony Readings 
• Wedding Ceremony Readings from TV & Movies
• Wedding Ceremony Readings from Literature
• Offbeat Wedding Ceremony Readings
• Alternatives to 1 Corinthians 13 for Your Wedding
• The Best Wedding Prayers & Blessings for Your Wedding Ceremony
• 33 Wedding Love Quotes to Include in Your Wedding Ceremony
• 29 Modern Wedding Readings for Your Ceremony
• 43 Romantic Marriage Quotes for Your Wedding Day
• 48 Hilarious Wedding Puns, Jokes & Quotes
• The Best Love Poems for Your Wedding

You’re getting married, congratulations! But who is going to marry you?

Turns out, you have a few options. There are a number of different types of wedding officiants, commissioners, religious and civil officers, and licensed people who can legally marry you during your wedding ceremony.

Keep in mind that some of these positions overlap – a professional wedding officiant could also be a non-denominational officiant or a ship captain (more on that later!).

You also want to keep the location of your ceremony in mind. Not all of these positions have the power to marry you everywhere. What’s available in one jurisdiction may not be available in another. For example, if you’re looking at who can perform a marriage in BC, you’ll find that judges and friends who get ordained online are not an option.

Bottom line: You want to find the right officiant for you – someone who can legally marry you in your area and honour your wishes. This person should be able to create your dream ceremony whether that’s a quick signing ceremony, religious or spiritual ceremony, intimate elopement or full-on custom ceremony written just for you two!

Let’s get to know the 11 different types of wedding officiants and other people who can marry you:

1. Professional wedding officiant

Hello, you’ve found us! All of the officiants at Young Hip & Married are professional wedding officiants. A professional wedding officiant is someone who is licensed to legally marry you and who has undergone specific training to become an officiant. Officiating is often their full-time job or a significant part-time job.

While all wedding officiants are different, at Young Hip & Married, we pride ourselves on creating ceremonies that cater to our couples wants and needs. There’s nothing cookie cutter here!

If you want to elope on top of a mountain after an epic helicopter ride, check out our Adventure Elopements. If you want to gather in your local park or favourite beach with a few friends and have the photos to remember it all, check out our Intimate Elopement + Photography package.

And, of course, if you want a personal ceremony that has been custom written for you to tell your love story, you’ll want to check out our Custom & Creative Ceremony!

2. Marriage commissioner

A marriage commissioner is a government official who is licensed to legally marry couples. Because they are government employees, they don’t have as much freedom as wedding officiants.

Commissioners are only able to marry people in specific geographic locations. They must be retired or semi-retired and they charge a flat rate set by the government. Many commissioners do not offer the option to customize your ceremony script or include any creative additions.

While commissioners are generally more affordable than officiants, they typically do not offer as many options to personalize your ceremony. Check out more differences between marriage commissioners and wedding officiants to find out which one is right for you.

3. Marriage celebrant

A marriage celebrant is actually another term for a wedding officiant. The word “celebrant” is more popular in Australia, New Zealand and the United Kingdom while “officiant” is more popular in the US and Canada. But generally speaking, “celebrant” and “officiant” are interchangeable.

However, you do want to double check that your marriage celebrant is a licensed officiant if you’re looking to be legally married. While professional officiants are almost always licensed, not all celebrants are. Some celebrants offer their services in strictly a ceremonial capacity but don’t have the legal authority to marry you.

4. Religious minister

A religious minister or ordained minister is someone who is licensed through their religious body to marry couples. Many priests, rabbis, pastors, imams and other religious leaders offer this service to members of their church/mosque/synagogue/etc.

Because this person is a religious leader and licensed through their religious body, they almost always perform religious ceremonies. You may need to be a member of their specific institution or practice the same faith in order to have them officiate your ceremony.

Obviously choosing a religious minister for your wedding is best for couples who are a part of that same religion. If you’re not religious or come from two different religions, you may prefer to work with a professional officiant who can incorporate as much or as little religion into your ceremony as you’d like. More on that in the next category!

5. Non-denominational officiant

A non-denominational wedding officiant is an officiant who performs ceremonies that don’t align with any specific religious denomination. This could either mean a generally religious ceremony but without a specific denomination (e.g. a Christian ceremony but not specifically Catholic) or a completely non-religious/secular ceremony.

At Young Hip & Married, all of our officiants offer non-denominational and non-religious ceremonies. Regardless of their personal faith, they’d be happy to incorporate as little or as much of your chosen religious or spiritual practices as you’d like. Our default is to not include religion in a ceremony unless requested to do so.

This is a great option for non-religious couples, religious/spiritual couples who aren’t connected to a specific denomination, or couples who come from two different religions. Our officiants have experience blending religions, cultures and traditions to create a ceremony that is inclusive of both of you and your families.

6. Justice of the peace

A justice of the peace is a judicial officer and the public’s first point of contact with the legal system. As well as scheduling trial dates and handling minor traffic infractions, a justice of the peace may be able to legally marry you.

Keep in mind that justices of the peace are not able to marry couples in all jurisdictions. For example, this is not an option in British Columbia. Check that this is an option in your ceremony location before moving forward.

7. Court clerk

A court clerk provides administrative support to all levels of the court. They maintain files, collect fees and, in some jurisdictions, are able to legally officiate weddings.

Like with a justice of the peace, this option is not available in all areas. Check with your local court before you make any plans.

Most ceremonies officiated by civil officers, such as court clerks and justices of the peace, are non-religious. They focus on the legally binding aspects of marriage and often don’t have room for personalization with readings, unity ceremonies, etc.

8. Judge

A judge, as you probably know, conducts trials. In some areas, they are also able to perform legal wedding ceremonies. This is most often seen in courthouse or city hall weddings.

Once again, you’ll need to check the rules for your specific jurisdiction. While we’ve all seen courthouse weddings on TV or in the movies, they aren’t always an option in real life. You can’t always run down to city hall and elope.

Similar to other civic ceremonies, a ceremony officiated by a judge will likely be short and not have options for personalization. This is ideal for a couple looking for an affordable and legal way to tie the knot and who don’t want to customize their ceremony script.

9. Notary public

A notary public is a public legal officer who handles non-contested legal services such as preparing wills and the paperwork for real estate transactions. In some jurisdictions, a notary public can also marry you by legally signing your marriage licence.

As we’ve mentioned, this is not possible in all jurisdictions. Notaries public are not able to legally conduct wedding ceremonies in all areas.

Couples who want to get married with as little fanfare as possible – who simply want to sign some paperwork in an office – may choose to be married by a notary public. This is definitely one of the most discrete ways to tie the knot!

10. Friend or family member

One of the most talked about ceremony options is to have a friend or family member go online, get licensed and be legally able to marry you. But hold on! It might not be that easy and it might not be the best idea.

For starters, not all jurisdictions allow ordinary civilians to go online and get ordained or licensed to marry couples. In most of Canada, this is not an option.

Secondly, even if this is an option in your area, it might not be the right call. While your friends and family members know you, they don’t know weddings. They may miss important parts of the ceremony, forget to cue the DJ, turn your love story into a comedy roast, get nervous and speak too fast, or make it all about them.

A lot can go wrong when you choose a friendor (friend + vendor) for your wedding instead of a professional. They don’t have the experience and it can be awkward to give them feedback. Do you really want to risk one of the most important parts of your special day?

Plus, if you go with a professional wedding officiant, your friends and family members can still be involved in your ceremony. You can ask loved ones to come up and deliver a reading, say a wedding prayer, help you light your unity candle or even give a ceremony toast.

PS: Still want to have a friend marry you? At least get them some professional help! Check out our Custom Script package where our officiants will write your script and your friend can deliver it. 

11. Bonus: What about a ship captain?

Remember when Jim and Pam from The Office got married on a boat in Niagara Falls because everyone knows ship captains have the power to marry people? Yeah, turns out that might not be true…

Despite being a popular TV/movie trope, ship captains in most areas of the world cannot marry couples strictly based on their job or maritime licence. So looks like Elizabeth Swan and Will Turner weren’t legally married in Pirates of the Caribbean 3!

However, because this is such a popular myth and because so many couples do want to get married at sea, some ship captains get licensed and are able to legally marry couples. They may have become licensed through their religious body, local government or online like an ordinary civilian.

Once again, we’ll remind you to double check that this is a legal option for you before you set sail. Ask whether the captain is licensed and where your marriage would be legally registered.

Learn more about wedding officiants with these posts:

• What Does a Wedding Officiant Do?
• How to Find a Wedding Officiant
• How to Choose Your Wedding Officiant
• 15 Questions to Ask Your Wedding Officiant Before You Book
• How Much Does a Wedding Officiant Cost and Why?
• Wedding Officiant Speeches: What Does a Wedding Officiant Say?
• Do I Need a Wedding Officiant? And Other Officiant FAQs
• How to Find a Licensed Wedding Officiant in BC
• Bilingual Wedding Officiant Tips for a Bilingual Wedding Ceremony
• Your Guide to Wedding Officiant Outfits
• Your Guide to Wedding Officiant Gifts

As wedding officiants since 2010, we’ve officiated thousands of weddings. And at every single one of those ceremonies, we’ve stood at the front and held something in our hands.

What exactly is that thing? What is it used for and how do you decide what to hold? Let’s dive into wedding officiant binders, folders, tablets and more!

What are wedding officiant binders and folders?

Wedding officiant binders and folders are the book-like items that officiants hold during the ceremony. They contain the ceremony script, as well as other important pieces for the ceremony.

Throughout your wedding ceremony, your officiant will reference and read from the papers or notes in their binder. They will likely have this book open the entire time so they can keep your ceremony running smoothly.

While traditionally officiants may have held Bibles or other religious texts, modern day officiants often hold slim notebooks or tablets.

Different types of officiant binders, folders & portfolios

While we generally refer to them as wedding officiant binders, these “binders” don’t actually have to be binders at all. They come in all shapes, sizes and forms!

You may see an officiant carrying a:

• Binder with pages that they’ll flip through
• Folder with pockets to store other ceremony pieces
• Clipboard with notes attached
• Notebook with the script written or printed inside
• Stack of papers that they lay out on a stand or altar
• Tablet, such as an iPad

Any of the above options can work for a wedding ceremony as they all can hold a ceremony script. Later in this post we’ll explain how officiants can choose what type of “binder” to carry and if you, the couple getting married, can make any special requests.

However, if you see either of the following options being used, you might consider it a red flag:

A phone. While phones are amazing and you can definitely hold ceremony scripts, vows and speeches on them, we still think they look a little tacky in wedding photos.

If your officiant wants to utilize tech, they should opt for a tablet instead. It just photographs better!

Nothing. Unless you’re getting married in a very short elopement ceremony with a very experienced officiant, you don’t want them to show up empty-handed. Even if they swear they have your entire ceremony memorized, you don’t want to worry about them forgetting something.

It’s like when a server at a restaurant takes your entire table’s orders without writing them down. Sure, they may have a great memory, but it’s just stressful for you! Will they remember you said no cilantro or not?

What goes in a wedding officiant’s binder?

The most important item in an officiant’s binder is the ceremony script. Check out our post on ceremony script outlines to understand exactly what should go into yours.

Your ceremony script details the words to be spoken and actions to be taken during your ceremony. In addition to the actual ceremony, your officiant should also have the following information in their script or in their binder:

• Timeline of the ceremony, include processional and recessional
• Ceremony vendor list and contact information
• Music cues for the DJ or band
• Ceremony announcements they need to make

Besides the script, some officiants also use their folders to hold other pieces needed during the ceremony. For example, they may also hold:

• Their registry book
• The couple’s marriage licence
• The couple’s vow books
• Any small props needed for the ceremony

If the ceremony props are too big to fit into a folder – for example if a couple is planning a handfasting ceremony with a large piece of rope – your officiant can work with your planner and venue to find another place for these items.

They can store things at the front of the ceremony space, on a table or altar. They can leave things, such as the marriage registry, in their bag until after the ceremony. Or they can have things set up on your signing table.

How to decide on the perfect binder or folder for your wedding ceremony

For couples:

As the couple getting married, know that it is your officiant’s job to come prepared with their own binder. This isn’t something you have to provide.

Your experienced and professional wedding officiant should already have a binder/folder that works for them. (Looking for an officiant you can trust? Meet our team!)

However, if you have any special requests, you can definitely let your officiant know. For example, if you’re having a Halloween wedding, you can ask your officiant if they have a binder that might suit that theme. Or purchase a ghoulish iPad cover that they can use for the ceremony.

You may also need to let your officiant know about any venue information that may affect their binder/folder. For example, your officiant may ask about wifi or the availability of a table.

For wedding officiants:

As a wedding officiant trying to decide what to carry during the ceremony, choose something that you’re comfortable with. If you’ve never used a tablet before, don’t show up at a wedding with a brand new iPad!

Like with wedding officiant outfits, you want to choose a binder/folder that is professional and discrete. Even if you’re the most fun officiant ever, you don’t want something like your iPad cover to steal attention away from the newlyweds.

Whether you choose a book, a binder or an iPad, take the time to practice. You’ll likely be practicing the ceremony anyway, so make sure to do so with your actual binder/folder. That way you can work out any kinks, such as pages that get stuck together or a short battery life on your tablet.

Speaking of tablets: If you decide to go the technology route, make sure everything is fully charged. You may even want to bring a portable charger or charging cable with you. If you need wifi, ensure it works at the venue. Or better yet, download everything you need ahead of time so you can do your ceremony offline.

Regardless of your chosen format, we strongly encourage you to have a back up. This could be a physical copy that you print out and keep in your bag or an emailed copy that you can pull up if need be.

Welcome to your ultimate wedding words glossary full of every word you need to know to plan and have the most amazing wedding ceremony!

As wedding officiants since 2010, we’ve helped thousands of couples put together their ceremonies. Many couples are doing this for the first time and understandably don’t know all the things there is to know about ceremonies. That’s where we come in!

Below we’re sharing 60 wedding words that might be relevant to your ceremony, plus quick definitions and full blog posts with more information. All of the wedding words below are in alphabetical order.

Happy ceremony planning!

1. Adventure Elopement Ceremony

Up first is one of our very own wedding words, Young Hip & Married’s Adventure Elopement Ceremony. This is one of our signature ceremony packages, perfect for couples who want to tie the knot in a unique and adventurous way.

Whether that’s in front of a waterfall, soaring above the clouds in a helicopter, or cruising around the coast in a floatplane, we can’t wait to help you plan the most memorable ceremony yet! All of our Adventure Elopements include your officiant and photographer, with videography as an optional add-on.

2. Announcement of the couple

One of the last things to happen at a wedding ceremony is the announcement of the couple. After the vows and rings are exchanged, and the first kiss has happened, your wedding officiant will announce you to your guests for the first time as a married couple. Everyone will cheer as you make your way back up the aisle.

If you’ll be using a new last name in your marriage, this announcement is usually the first time that name is said. Your officiant may say, “Let’s hear it for the newlyweds, Ms & Mx New Last Name!”

3. Backyard wedding

A backyard wedding is – pretty obviously – a wedding ceremony that takes place in your backyard. This is a great option for couples who want a more low-key and informal event with a smaller guest list. Bonus points if you (or one of your loved ones) has a beautiful backyard where you can host it.

You can choose to have your entire wedding in your backyard, or just the ceremony or reception.

4. Celebrant

A celebrant is the person who marries you during your wedding ceremony. This is usually another name for wedding officiant, and heard more often in the UK and Australia.

If you’re planning a legal wedding, make sure that your celebrant is a licensed officiant. Some celebrants do not have the power to conduct legal ceremonies and instead function in more of an MC or host role.

5. Ceremony music

It’s not just your reception and first dance that needs music, your ceremony may need some music too. You can choose songs for your entrance, ceremony exit songs and songs for all the important moments in between, such as when you’re signing your marriage licence.

Some couples also like to include songs that honour their traditions, cultures or religions throughout their ceremony. Check out our complete ceremony song list for more inspiration.

6. Ceremony script

Your ceremony script is the written version of your ceremony. It includes everything that will be said and done, acting like the blueprint for you, your officiant and your wedding planner.

We believe it’s very important that you see your ceremony script before your ceremony. Every word spoken and action taken during your ceremony should be something you approve of and that feels right for you two. You don’t want any bad surprises on the big day.

7. Ceremony signs

There are lots of wedding signs you can include at your ceremony based on what your guests need to know and how much you love a sign. For example, many couples like to have a welcome sign so guests know they’re in the right place when they arrive.

You may also want a sign letting your guests know your wedding is unplugged or encouraging them to grab a drink before the ceremony starts. Other popular signs include directional signage (where’s the bathroom?), decorative signs (such as a neon sign with your new married names), and remembrance signs (to honour past loved ones).

8. Ceremony toast

Who says toasts have to be saved for your reception? We say go ahead and raise your glass at your ceremony with a ceremony toast!

While less traditional, it can be fun to ask your guests to share in a toast and celebrate with you earlier in the wedding day. This is a fun way to make guests feel included and start your wedding on a celebratory note.

9. City hall wedding

City hall weddings are very popular, thanks to movies and TV shows, where running off to get married at City Hall seems romantic, whimsical and easy. But be warned that a city hall wedding isn’t always as easy as it seems. Many cities have special rules and may require you to book in advance or bring in your own officiant.

PS: Thinking of getting married at Vancouver City Hall? Check out our guide!

10. Commitment ceremony

A commitment ceremony is a ceremony where the couple makes a commitment to one another but without legally getting married. This ceremony can still include vows, rings and guests, but won’t include signing an official marriage licence.

Some couples will choose to have a commitment ceremony if they’re not able to get legally married, if they’re already legally married but want to celebrate their commitment, or if they’d simply prefer to make a non-legal commitment to one another.

11. Community vows

Community vows are vows spoken by your guests as they pledge their support for you and your marriage. These vows are usually led by your officiant who will read the vow out loud and ask your guests to all say “We do!” afterwards to show their commitment.

Having a community vow is a lovely way to involve your guests in your ceremony and your marriage. It’s also a nice way to really feel the love from your guests!

12. Custom & Creative Ceremony

The Custom & Creative Ceremony is Young Hip & Married’s most popular ceremony option. With this ceremony, you’ll get a completely unique and personal ceremony that’s 100% custom to you.

Your officiant will work with you to write and craft the ceremony of your dreams. They’ll interview your friends and family, help you write your vows, walk you through the different ceremony options and even lead your rehearsal.

13. Declaration of intent

The declaration of intent (or statement of intent) is the part of your ceremony where you declare your intent to marry your partner. Often this looks like your officiant asking, “Do you, YOUR NAME, take PARTNER’S NAME to be your spouse?” To which you will answer, “I do!”

Many people confuse wedding vows with the declaration of intent, but they’re actually two different things. We’ll get to vows later in this wedding words glossary!

14. Elopement

Elopements are some of our favourite kinds of ceremonies! An elopement is an intimate wedding, usually with no more than 20 guests, where the focus is solely on the couple. There’s no pomp and circumstance – picture a few of your loved ones standing around you in a beautiful setting as you say your vows.

Elopements, while more casual and shorter than full-scale wedding ceremonies, are often some of the most emotional ceremonies we get to be a part of.

15. First kiss

While likely not your first kiss ever, your first kiss as a married couple is still a pretty freaking big deal.

The kiss usually comes towards the end of your ceremony, after your vows and rings have been exchanged. Your officiant will pronounce you married and invite you to seal the deal with a kiss.

16. Flower girl & ring bearer

You probably know that the flower girl and ring bearer are roles usually held by kids in the wedding party. But did you know you can totally flip the flower girl and ring bearer tradition on its head?

First of all, these roles are optional. If you don’t have any close kids in your life, you can skip the hassle of asking your second cousin’s twins to try and walk down the aisle without crying.

Second, you can ask adults to fulfil the roles instead. Who doesn’t love a Flower Granny? Or third, you can rename the roles to make them more inclusive for people of all ages and genders!

17. Friendor

A friendor is a friend who is also serving as one of your wedding vendors. And in our experience, it’s not a good idea to hire friendors for your wedding!

Working with a friend may mean you get a discount, but it doesn’t mean you’re working with a professional. You may be uncomfortable giving them feedback or, worse, asking for a refund if they don’t deliver. Plus, if your friends are busy working, they don’t get to enjoy your wedding.

18. Giving away the bride

Traditionally, a bride was given away by her father to her waiting groom. This signified the transfer of a woman from her father’s property to her husband’s property. If that makes you gag, you’ll be happy to know there are lots of alternatives to giving away the bride!

We encourage you to change up this tradition in a way that works best for you and respects what you value. Plus, with some weddings not having brides or fathers involved, it’s time we leave this outdated tradition behind anyway.

19. Guest list

Your guest list is the list of people you will be inviting to attend your wedding. Putting together your ceremony guest list can be quite stressful as you’ll need to see how many people fit into your venue, decide if plus ones or children are invited, check how far your wedding budget will stretch, and maybe put together a B list for people who may not get invited.

The guest list is a puzzle, but we know you’ll solve it. To help, check out our post on cutting down your guest list.

20. Handfasting

Handfasting is an old Celtic tradition where ropes are tied around a couple’s joined hands to symbolize their commitment. It’s where we got the term “tying the knot” from.

These days, many couples like to include handfasting in their ceremony. You can personalize your handfasting ritual by using special ropes or cords, such as ones in your wedding colours, or by saying special vows as you complete the ritual.

21. Helicopter elopement

A part of our Adventure Elopement package, Young Hip & Married is thrilled to offer helicopter elopements to couples getting married with us in Vancouver and Whistler. Get ready to take your love to new heights – literally!

Your helicopter elopement package includes the helicopter flight, your officiant and photographer, and optional add-ons like guests and videography. Check out our Adventure Elopement page to learn more!

22. Home wedding

A home wedding is, quite simply, a wedding you host in your own home. This could be a backyard wedding or it could be saying your vows in your living room with a few loved ones watching from the couch.

At-home weddings are usually more casual but extremely special celebrations. It can be very meaningful for couples to solidify their commitment to one another in their own home. Plus, they’re budget-friendly too!

23. House announcements

House announcements are a type of wedding ceremony announcement that your officiant will make at the top of the ceremony. Before the processional, your officiant will get all of your guests’ attention and share a few housekeeping notes.

These announcements usually include things such as instructions for where your guests should go after the ceremony, any safety or venue-specific information, and a reminder of your photo and phone policy.

24. Intimate Elopement Ceremony

Young Hip & Married’s Intimate Elopement Ceremony is perfect for couples who want a no frills way to get married. You don’t need an aisle walk or fancy decor – just the two of you and maybe a few guests for a “gather and wed” style ceremony.

We’ve been lucky enough to marry eloping couples in some of the most beautiful places. Check out some of our favourite elopement locations in Vancouver, on Vancouver Island and in Calgary.

25. Intimate Elopement + Photography Ceremony

Just like our Intimate Elopement Ceremony, but this time we’re throwing in the photographer. With our Intimate Elopement + Photography Ceremony, you’ll have everything you need for the perfect small-scale celebration, plus the photos to remember it forever.

This is the perfect package for couples who want to keep things simple, but beautiful. It’s also a great option for couples who plan destination weddings in our locations, as you only need to book one vendor (us!) and we’ll have everything you need to tie the knot.

26. Justice of the Peace

A Justice of the Peace is a judicial officer who serves as the public’s first point of contact with the legal system. They’re responsible for things like setting bail terms and court dates and in some jurisdictions, they can perform legal weddings.

Note that JPs cannot perform weddings in all provinces/states. So be sure to check in with the rules in your specific area before making any plans to have a Justice of the Peace officiate for you.

27. Legal wedding

A legal wedding is a wedding ceremony that results in a couple becoming legally married. This requires them to complete any mandatory actions, such as consenting to marriage in front of two witnesses, and signing the official paperwork.

A legal wedding ceremony must be presided over by someone who is licensed and legally able to marry couples and file their paperwork.

28. Marriage certificate

A marriage certificate is the piece of paper you get after your wedding that certifies that you are married. Once your licence has been filed and registered, you will receive or can apply for your marriage certificate.

Note that some jurisdictions will automatically send you your marriage certificate while others require you to apply for it and pay a fee.

29. Marriage commissioner

A marriage commissioner is a government representative who can legally officiate weddings. They may sound similar to a wedding officiant but there are some crucial differences between officiants and commissioners.

Most notably, commissioners must be semi-retired and can only marry couples within their limited geographic area. They charge a set fee and are usually more limited in the types of ceremonies they can write and perform.

30. Marriage licence

Your marriage licence is the piece of paper you will sign at your ceremony to become legally wed. You’ll apply for your licence in the weeks or months leading up to your wedding, sign it on the big day, and then your officiant will file it with the appropriate body so your marriage is legally recognized.

We have lots of resources to help you obtain and sign your BC marriage licence, Alberta marriage licence or Ontario marriage licence.

31. Micro wedding

A micro wedding – which became very popular during the pandemic – is in between a full-sized wedding and an elopement. Micro weddings usually have no more than 50 guests but still include many of the elements you’d expect to see in a full-sized wedding.

While most common during the pandemic when larger celebrations weren’t possible, micro weddings are still going strong today. Many couples like the idea of celebrating with a smaller group (and saving a bit of money!).

32. Non-denominational ceremony

A non-denominational ceremony is ideal for couples who want a meaningful moment without being tied to any religious institution. Depending on your preferences, this ceremony can still be religious or spiritual, but doesn’t need to align with any specific denomination.

All of our wedding officiants at Young Hip & Married are happy to offer non-denominational or non-religious ceremonies. If you do want to involve your religious, spiritual, cultural or traditional practices, our officiants can also work with you to help incorporate those things into your ceremony.

33. Officiant

Welcome, you’ve found us! A wedding officiant is the person who leads your ceremony and is legally able to marry you. Wedding officiants are not government officials, and therefore have more freedom around the types of ceremonies they can perform. However, they are still licensed and can legally marry couples.

To learn more we can fill you in on what an officiant does, what an officiant says, what an officiant wears, how to find an officiant, how to choose an officiant, and answer any other questions you have about officiants!

34. Processional

The processional, or aisle walk, is how the couple and (optionally) their wedding party enter the ceremony. This is usually set to music and marks the official start of the ceremony.

You can choose a traditional processional order, often with a bride entering last with their father, or mix things up with a unique processional that feels best for you.

35. Program

A wedding program is a pamphlet that is given out to guests as they enter the ceremony. It usually lists members of the wedding party, shares the outline of the ceremony, and includes any special things guests need to know, like the lyrics to a song they have to sing or translation to a part of the ceremony that won’t be in their native language.

But do you need wedding programs? Maybe not!

36. Pronouncement

The pronouncement is the part of the ceremony when your officiant announces you as a married couple. This is usually followed by an invitation to share your first kiss and deafening applause by your guests!

The traditional pronouncement (“I now pronounce you man and wife. You may kiss the bride.”) doesn’t work for all couples or resonate with their beliefs. Instead, check out some pronouncements alternatives to make this moment your own.

37. Rain plan

If you’re planning on an outdoor wedding ceremony, you’re going to want to have a rain plan. A rain plan is just what it sounds like – a plan in case it rains (or snows, sleets, hails, turns into a hurricane, etc.). Cross your fingers for sun but chat with your wedding planner and/or venue coordinator about what you’ll do if the weather isn’t cooperating.

If you’re getting married in a notoriously rainy place like Vancouver, you’ll definitely need a good rain plan. Check out our favourite rainy day elopement locations in Vancouver and our picks for a last minute Vancouver rain plan.

38. Readings

An optional element you can add to your wedding ceremony is a reading. This is when you ask an honoured guest to come to the front and read a pre-selected text to your guests. This can be a great way to involve a loved one in your ceremony and share some special words that mean a lot to you two.

We have lots of readings to help inspire your choice – including readings from TV shows and readings from songs. Start with our post on how to choose a reading and our top 10 readings. Plus, pass on our best tips for your readers!

39. Recessional

The recessional is the opposite of the processional; this is when you two and your wedding party walk back up the aisle and exit your ceremony after it’s over.

The recessional is usually a lot less formal than the processional and is often accompanied by a fun exit song.

40. Rehearsal

Contrary to popular belief, your wedding rehearsal isn’t all about the rehearsal dinner. The actual rehearsal is important too! This is when you two, your wedding party and a few vendors (usually your officiant and planner) walk through your ceremony. Everyone learns where to go, what to do and what to expect for the big day.

In our opinion, a rehearsal is pretty important and can help you feel a lot less nervous going into your ceremony. Check out our wedding rehearsal checklist and rehearsal FAQs for all of our best tips!

41. Ring exchange

The ring exchange is the part of the ceremony when you two – you guessed it – exchange rings! This is usually done after your vows to solidify the promises you just made to one another.

Learn all about rings for weddings here!

42. Ring statement

A ring statement is the words you say during your ring exchange. This usually looks like holding your partner’s hand and repeating words after your officiant while you place the ring on their finger.

Your ring statement can be as simple as, “With this ring, I thee wed.” For other options, check out our favourite words for your ring exchange!

43. Runway Elopement Ceremony

One of our newest ceremony packages is the Runway Elopement Ceremony. This incredible package includes a beautiful hotel suite at Fairmont Vancouver Airport, parking, your officiant, your photographer, a luxurious dinner for two and breakfast the next morning.

Learn more about the Runway Elopement and check out some gorgeous photos of the Fairmont and airport weddings here.

44. Sand ceremony

A sand ceremony is a type of unity ceremony that some couples like to add to their wedding day. In this ceremony, each member of the couple will pour different coloured sand into a container. The two colours will mix, symbolizing two people coming together as one.

Not only is a sand ceremony a fun addition to your ceremony, but it can also make a nice keepsake. You can display the sand in a vase or even have it turned into glass!

45. Signing ceremony

A signing ceremony is a type of wedding ceremony where the main focus is signing the marriage licence to legalize the wedding. Any legal requirements to be married, such as verbally consenting to enter into marriage with one another, would also need to be completed in front of a licensed officiant and two witnesses.

This type of ceremony is often done if a couple is planning a larger non-legal ceremony (i.e. commitment ceremony) for a later date but wants to get the legal ceremony (i.e. signing ceremony) completed ahead of time.

For example, if a couple is planning a destination wedding in Aruba, they may choose to sign their paperwork at home before they go.

46. Signing table

A signing table is the table where you go to sign your marriage licence either during or right after your ceremony. Your licence will be signed by you two, your officiant and your two witnesses.

These tables can be personalized and decorated with flowers and candles, they can be unique – such as using an antique desk instead of a table, or they can even be informal, such as signing your licence on top of the bar!

47. Sweet & Simple Ceremony

Young Hip & Married’s Sweet and Simple Ceremony is perfect for couples who are having a full-length wedding but who don’t want as many custom elements. You have more than 20 guests, but you’re okay to skip out on a little personalization.

The Sweet & Simple does not include a personalized ceremony script nor does it include a rehearsal. (If you want those things, check out our Custom & Creative Ceremony instead!)

48. Timeline

A ceremony timeline can actually refer to two things – 1) the timeline for planning out your ceremony, from the moment you get engaged until you walk down the aisle, or 2) the timeline for your ceremony, as in the order of events. Both timelines are important!

Once you’ve got your ceremony planning timeline in order, you can move on to putting together your ceremony outline and ceremony script. Don’t forget to utilize your officiant as your ceremony expert!

49. Unity candle

A unity candle is a type of unity ceremony that couples can choose to add to their wedding. In this tradition, both members of the couple will hold individual candles which they will then use to light one larger candle together.

You can also include loved ones in the tradition, such as asking honoured guests to bring up the individual candles to you before you light the unity candle.

50. Unity ceremony

We’ve already talked about unity candles and sand ceremonies as two popular types of unity traditions. But did you know there are lots of other unity ceremonies you can choose from? From beer blending to tree planting, there’s something for every type of couple!

Unity ceremonies are not mandatory, but they can be a nice addition to your wedding ceremony and a good way to symbolize your commitment. Many ceremonies also leave you with a keepsake that you can take home after the ceremony.

51. Unplugged ceremony

An unplugged ceremony is a ceremony where guests are asked to put away their phones, cameras and tablets. We love unplugged ceremonies for a few reasons:

• Your guests get to focus on the beautiful ceremony in front of them instead of being distracted by their devices
• Your photographer gets clean shots without a bunch of screens in the way
• And you two get to see smiling faces instead of the backs of phones!

52. Virtual wedding ceremony

Virtual weddings were all the rage during the pandemic when no one could gather in person, but there’s still lots of good reasons to have virtual wedding ceremonies in a post-pandemic age.

Virtual ceremonies – where some or all guests join the ceremony by live stream instead of in-person – can help couples save money and can help guests attend weddings they otherwise may not have been able to attend.

53. Vows

Weddings vows are the promises you make to your partner for the marriage you want to have together. These are the heartbeat of your wedding ceremony and words we hope you look back on over the long years of your marriage.

We’re passionate about wedding vows and have lots of resources to help you choose or write your own. Whether you’re looking for modern vows, traditional vows, simple vows, funny vows, repeating vows or you want to write your own vows, we’ve got you covered.

We even have a FREE vow guide – check it out!

54. Vow books

Vow books are small booklets where you write or print your vows to read from during your ceremony. While you can simply write your vows or print them out on a piece of paper, many couples prefer vow books.

Not only do these look great in photos, but they also make lovely keepsakes for after the wedding. You can even get your vow books personalized with your names, wedding date and favourite colours.

55. Vow renewal

A vow renewal is a ceremony for a couple who is already married but wants to recommit to one another. This is not a legal ceremony, since the couple is already legally married, but rather a symbolic commitment ceremony.

We love the idea of having a vow renewal to mark a big occasion (such as a milestone anniversary), life change, reconciliation or simply because you still love each other and want the world to know. Check out some great vow renewal examples here.

56. Wedding party

Your wedding party – also commonly called a bridal party – is the group of people who join you on your special day. During the ceremony, your wedding party often walks down the aisle with you and stands next to you at the front.

However, these things are optional! You can have a wedding party (or skip the wedding party altogether) who still hang out with you, get ready with you and take photos with you, but they don’t have to do an aisle walk or stand at the front of your ceremony.

57. Wedding prayer

For religious couples, adding wedding prayers or blessings into their ceremony can be very important. These prayers can represent any religion (or culture or tradition) and can be recited by you two, all of your guests, your officiant or an honoured speaker.

Check out our guide for adding wedding prayers into your ceremony.

58. Wedding website

Your wedding website is where guests will learn all about your wedding, see beautiful photos of you and maybe even RSVP. It also has some essential details for your ceremony, such as the ceremony date, time and location.

Your Our Story section on your wedding website can also be a big help for your ceremony. It can inspire your ceremony script and allow your guests to feel more connected to you two before you share your vows.

59. Witness

In order to have a legal wedding ceremony in many jurisdictions, that ceremony must be observed by two witnesses. Those same two witnesses must sign and date your marriage licence. Choosing someone to be your witness and sign your licence can be a great way to honour a loved one.

PS: Planning on an elopement or destination wedding without any guests? Reach out and we’ll help you find witnesses to make your marriage legal!

60. Words of welcome

The words of welcome are spoken by your officiant after your processional and once all of your guests are seated. During this part of your ceremony, your officiant will welcome you and your guests, optionally share a land acknowledgement, and set the tone for the rest of your ceremony.

Wrapping up your wedding words

Whew, you’ve made it through all 60 wedding words for your ceremony! Now that you have the vocabulary to feel a lot more confident planning your ceremony, we hope you’re inspired and empowered to craft the ceremony of your dreams.

Don’t forget, your wedding officiant is your ceremony expert. They can lead you through every element of your ceremony and help you make choices that personalize the experience for you two.

Meet our officiants, check out our ceremony packages and get in touch to book today!